Cultivating A Relationship

The relationship between intended parents and a surrogate mother is an important one, and both parties should be one the same page as outlined via a contract, prior to working together. This is an emotional process, and an exciting one and there are certain steps that both the surrogate mother and the intended parents can take to reduce challenges upon transition.

The more you all can work together towards a common goal and the more this person feels comfortable communicating with you, the easier it will be to avoid problems. Your surrogate will play an important role in the growth of your family, so you should be prepared for how to interact with her most effectively.

First of all, it’s important for the baby to be introduced to the intended parents’ voices. A baby’s sense of hearing plays an important role in the prenatal bonding. Intended parents should be allowed to talk to the baby during the pregnancy, and recordings of the intended parents reading books or talking can allow the baby to get used to their voices. The intended parents’ favorite music can also help to familiarize the baby with the sounds of home. This baby will recognize this and become comforted by the music after he or she is born.

Providing a transitional item is strongly recommended for surrogate mothers to assist with intended parents. The baby will start to recognize scent before birth. Sleeping with a stuffed animal or blanket and sending it home with the baby will ensure that those familiar smells of the family and home will help them to transition to life in their new home. When the baby is born, he or she will have to confirm the smells or sounds that he or she got accustomed to during the course of the pregnancy. Hold the baby on your chest prior to handing him or her to the intended parents, and this can help everyone be on the same page and ease the transition as effectively as possible.